And that's exactly why certified sex coach and sex educator says intentional temperature play can be so fun.
Another option: Use a warming and cool lubricant.
That's why she recommends sharing your preferred word if you're the receiver of pleasure and asking your partner what words they like if they are.
First things first: There are like a bajillion different words for breast tissue and nipples.
If you blow on the nipples the lube cools down.
With any sexual activity, the goal shouldn't be to orgasm, but to experience pleasure.